Not Into Parties or Clubbing

I am terribly awkward and self conscious. Never been into parties or clubbing where I didn’t already know and was comfortable with everyone there. I prefer one on one meetings over tea with someone I know and like, rather than group reunions where conversation often takes a superficial turn.

I feel like such a weirdo at times.

I feel like the odd one out.

The one who failed.

I prefer conversing with people online perhaps, because I am so self-conscious and don’t think I would be interesting in the least in person. I most definitely know I will disappoint. I sound a lot better than I really am.

It’s only now, in my 40’s, that I truly relish the quiet and peace of solitude. Yes, I’m like the typical old fogie now – please turn down the noise.

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9 Responses to Not Into Parties or Clubbing

  1. fudge says:

    Story of my life

  2. Katrijn says:

    You do sound lovely online 🙂 I am quite sure you wouldn’t disappoint in person, and tea is the perfect medium for an actual conversation. Parties and clubbing have a place and at times I enjoy it immensely, but for me it’ll generally not be the basis of a meaningful friendship!

  3. Laura says:

    I understand completely. I enjoy nights out and like to go dancing sometimes but compared to 10 or so years ago I don’t feel like I want to go out every weekend. I enjoy being at home (and love my own company as much as spending time with my husband) or simply being in the company of good friends enjoying a meal or a coffee just as much these days. So I don’t think you are weird at all and as has been said I’m sure you wouldn’t disappoint.

    • bookjunkie says:

      Happy to hear that Laura. I like cosy quiet cafes a lot more. Only went to clubs in my 20’s out of curiosity and am glad I did. Although I didn’t quite like not the ringing sounds in my ears after and not being able to hear anyone 😉

  4. Adel says:

    I’m like that since I was born…hehe…nothing wrong right

  5. Crystal says:

    For me it has depended.

    I like the loud music of clubs (when they’re playing stuff I like), and losing myself in the music (probably why given the absence of anyone else in the car, I immediately blast my stereo). I like dancing with friends. In my younger years, I occasionally liked flirting, and going home with someone new. Sometimes I had one drink, very rarely I’d have more than that. But I never went alone–I always went with friends (even if we split up and went home separately).

    Today I feel too old to go clubbing, and the cost of having to wake up and deal with two little people on very little sleep just isn’t appealing. It’s been years since I went to a dance club–my bachelorette party is the last time I can actually remember going dancing.

    But apart from a short stint in my early 20’s where going to Manray (a now closed club in Cambridge Mass) was a weekly thing that my friends and I just did, it’s never been a huge part of my life. I much prefer one on one, and hanging out somewhere that we can just hear each other talk. I think it’s one of the reasons that my friends and I “shop”–meaning we’re walking around and talking with the excuse of the stores, rather than actually going shopping.

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