I think people who have a compelling need to write, feel emotions intensely. If we don’t put it down and share it somewhere, we will burst.
I find that we also tend to dream so vividly that it seems real. For me I often wake up drained and wish I could have one night without dreams. I’ve learnt I’m not alone in this, from twitter conversations and lovely ladies I’ve conversed with on blogs and vlogs.
Some things, only a fellow woman can understand, and personally for me I need that female connection. I actually love the fact that my blog has a mainly female audience. And women more often than not want empathy and understanding and not solutions or a quick fix. Well at least that’s the way for me. We will find out own solutions in due time. When we are ready but we share not for the purpose of getting a solution as such. I am sure lots of women can relate to this conundrum. We also share only with people we trust and don’t make us feel silly for having those feelings.
I often feel self conscious about wearing my heart on my sleeve all the time. I wonder if people consider it weird. Nobody likes to be labelled as odd. But then again I find that people who are totally guarded about their feelings are people I can never be close to. For some reason they are emotionally closed off. Perhaps to protect themselves or perhaps that’s their comfort level. The relationship then hovers at a superficial level. Some of them are people I knew for years and then realized that actually I don’t know them at all.
It’s really funny though because I feel I know the heart of women I have never even met but who have shared their lives and emotions online. When they feel pain I feel so sad for them as well. We can also send good vibes their way and hope their lives turn around for the better. It’s why I like the internet.
People often talk about real life interactions being superior, and put down interactions on social media, but I think that this form of communication is pretty cool. If you’re shy, you are able to reach out to people way across the other end of the globe, without the pressure of a physical meet up. You just feel that connection. There’s someone out there who feels the same things and it’s very reassuring to find that after all, you are not that odd. There’s a tribe out there for you.